BASIC NEEDS OF GRIEVING CHILDREN

• Truthful and clear information.
  What happened?

• Security
  Who will take care of me now?

• To have a normal life and feel that it is okay.
  Who will take me to my soccer games?

• To be listened to
  Who can I trust and talk to?

• Permission to express or not express feelings.
  Who will accept me for who I am and how I feel?

• To be given choices.
  Can I take part in planning the services or attending if I choose to?

• Good modeling.
  What are the people I look up to doing?

• Inclusion
  Does what I think and feel matter?

• A sense of control.
  How will I keep my world in place?

• Commemorate
  How will I remember the person who died and how will this person remain a part of my life?